DEAR LADIES, WHY DO GO INTO POLYGYNY?

I want to ask you two questions.

1. What goes on in your mind when you see a married man, and you not only sleep with him, you let him get you pregnant and you have the baby?

I know the clichè line is that "the wife should face the husband who made a vow to her."

See, me thinking that cheating men are to blame doesn't mean I think side chics are innocent.

As far as I'm concerned, if you see a married man who you know very well that he is married, and WITHOUT THE CONSENT OF THE WIFE, you not only sleep with him, but let him get you pregnant and you go ahead to have the baby, you are a very wicked person.

Yes, the man is the person who made the vow, but what happened to BASIC HUMAN DECENCY? What happened to saying "I won't be a party to another woman's pain"?

You don't need to have made a vow to be a decent human being.

Even though you are desperate and you want his money, how about chop and clean mouth, never contact his wife and make sure you don't let him get you pregnant?

See, if you must be a side chic, there are unwritten rules...

- The goal is the MONEY and material benefits.

- Stay on your lane. Never contact his wife.

- Do NOT get pregnant by him and/or have a baby with him.

- Don't go into his matrimonial home. You are going there to do what exactly?

I tend to understand (not necessarily support) side chics who stay in their lanes and just focus on the "shugar" and money.

But, those ones who go ahead to contact the wives, go into her home or have a baby with him are cruel and very wicked people. And I wish more bad things befall you people. I hope you suffer too.

See ehn, before I got married, SEVERAL married men asked me out. And as long as I know they are married, I rejected ALL of them.

Some of these men were my type, but I still rejected them.

I made no vow to their wives, but I just do NOT want to be a willing party to the cause of another woman's pains and sadness.

Yes, most of these men went ahead to still cheat with other women. I just decided that I will NOT be that woman!!!

2. How will you out of the Billions of men on earth, decide that your sister's, cousin's, daughter's or other male relatives' husbands or partners are the ones you want?

I don't know how you lots do it.

For me, if you have even asked my sister out in the past, you are never going to be in my radar.

In 2019, a man asked me to be his girlfriend. Why did I refuse? He asked my sister out in 2003. He and my sister did NOT date, my sister got married in 2010 so as at 2019, she had been married for 9 years, and the man was still single. But I rejected him simply because he once asked my sister out.

So, for you women who open your legs for your sisters', daughters', cousins' and even besties' husbands, how do you people do it?

How cruel can you be to sleep with your sisters', daughters', beastie's husband or partner? How do you even sleep at night?

We advocate for gender equality, and for men to respect women, but do we women respect ourselves enough?

I know there are men who also sleep with other people's wives, but on this post, I'm choosing to address women. Let's stick to the topic please.

I just wish most women would respect the sisterhood code.

- Stop sleeping with your sisters' husbands.

- Stop sleeping with your daughters' husbands.

- Stop sleeping with your cousins' husbands.

No matter how common the practice is and how much they try to package polygamy to us; I have an instant dislike for any wife who isn't the first wife. Except in very rare situations where the first wife approved of it. Not forced approval.

Thing is, it's extremely rare to see a woman who genuinely wants to share her man. They exist, but it's rare.

MOST WOMEN in polygamy, including women in the core Islamic settings would tell you that they still would rather have their husbands to themselves alone.

Polygamy will NEVER make sense to me.

Like, you expect me to be exclusive to you while you can be a community property? Because you have two heads?

No amount of religious or traditional brainwash will make polygamy appealing to me. God forbid!

I am speaking generally, but I wanted to attach a picture so I used this.

Watch as side chics, retired side chics, children of side chics 2nd, 3rd, 4th... wives and their children jump in to defend themselves and their mothers.