CHILETAM NWADIUTO AMADI SPEAKS TO REGINA DANIELS ON HER MARITAL CRISES

Did Regina think power is sexually transmitted?

I left when I was her age, maybe even younger, and watching her feels like revisiting my past. 

It’s crazy going through this phase, the worst part- having your young kids stay away from you.

As an OG in this game, I’ll tell you where she got it wrong , and I hope others can learn.

Rule No. 1: “Never outshine the master.”

Once you and your partner are no longer an item, it becomes a battle. 

No matter how peaceful you want it to be, there’s a cold war going on, the thin line between love and hate becomes blurred. 

And like in every battle, you must gauge your opponent.

You’ve lived with them. 

You know their influence, contacts, and security. 

Ned is clearly the power here, the master. 

Regina ignored this rule because she didn’t think her “beloved lord and personal saviour” could play her this dirty. 

But it’s a war, my dear, you just didn’t realize it. “All’s fair…”

Rule No. 2: Emotion is the first enemy of strategy.

This is why women are usually weaponized, when they allow feelings to cloud reasoning. 

Cry, but don’t let it consume you.

Those days, I set aside the night for crying, that’s when I’d let it all out. 

By morning, I was planning my next move.

Rule No. 3: Not everything is for social media.

Marital disputes don’t need a crowd. 

The fewer people involved, the more clarity you’ll have. It took me about 5 years to get to the point I can publicly discuss it and hold converstions around it.

You can use social media when you’re calm or when you need a specific action. For instance, Regina could have come out to ask the media to help her get custody of her children… but right now, it’s all smoke and mirrors.

Rule No. 4: Surround yourself with diplomatic people.

This, to me, is her biggest problem. I can understand her outbursts, but it seems everyone around her is even more chaotic. 

There’s no one to hold the fort. 

No one on her side who can have a calm, productive conversation with Ned.

In my case, my dad and uncle handled that role. They didn’t allow me to become unleashed. The man could see they were cool-headed and unbiased. Even when we weren’t talking, my dad could always talk to him. It helped me predict his next move, prepare, and position myself.

Overall, Regina underestimated the situation, like many young women in this situation do.

Separations are some of the most chaotic and messy experiences you can go through in life, and it’s even worse when it’s the woman who leaves.

Nigerian men don’t like to be left. They’d rather send you away so they can bask in the ego of “I sent her packing.” 

Even a wheelbarrow pusher would react if his wife left, not to talk of a man with means and power. And the first thing they go for is where a woman’s heart is: her children.

What Ned is doing is what most men would do. The differences are in status and 

influence.

He’s lived through decades of life; there’s no area where Regina who’s young, impressionable, and prone to mistakes, can outmatch him. 

Regardless of her youthful exuberance, she’s still fragile and not a threat to Ned, who can crush her in the twinkle of an eye.

I wish she would retreat, restrategize, and relaunch, this time, well guarded and clear-headed.

It was me years ago.

It is Regina today.

It can be another woman tomorrow.

Hugs 🫂 

Me: The worst mistake you can make @Regina Daniel is to take your husband to court after you admitted being in dru-gs and video evidence showing your viol-ent behaviors. Don't allow anyone fo-ol you! Focus on your recovery ✨️ and strategically reintroduce the new You!