MARRIAGE WEEK-THE TEN SECRETS OF HAPPY COUPLES (2) BY DAVE WILLIS.
5. PRIROTIZE YOUR SEX LIFE: It takes much more than sex to build a strong marriage, but it’s nearly impossible to build a strong marriage without it. Prioritize your spouse’s sexual needs. If your spouse is the one with the higher drive, then work to meet their need since you’re the only legitimate source on earth where that need can be met. With prioritizing your sex life, don’t prioritize just the act itself but also more affection, foreplay, flirtation, and celebration of each other. Work to find solutions when you face setbacks in your health or sex life and be patient and tender with each other when insecurities or limitations occur. Sex is a gift from God that’s meant to be enjoyed in marriage, so enjoy it!
6. COMMUNICATE ABOUT EVERYTHING AND NEVER KEEP SECRETS FROM EACH OTHER: Communication is the lifeline keeping a marriage strong. You need to talk about everything. Make uninterrupted communication a regular part of your routine. Remove distractions and really talk. Don’t keep secrets about anything. Secrecy is the enemy of intimacy.
7. KEEP DREAMING NEW DREAMS TOGETHER AND WORK TOWARDS SHARED GOALS: In every season of marriage, you should always have something to look forward to – goals and dreams you’re working together to reach. Keep dreaming together. Creating new dreams and goals can breathe fresh life into your relationship. These goals can be about anything from finances, to fitness, to new ventures, to ministry, to parenting and everything in between.
8. DEVELOP A 'PRO-MARRIAGE” COMMUNITY: Your marriage is going to start to resemble the marriages of the people you’re hanging around the most, so make sure you choose friends who value marriage. For us, our community has always been rooted in the church. Our small group meets regularly where other couples in the same season of life come together, eat, hangout, pray, laugh, and encourage each other. We’ve also found older mentors who can teach us from their experience and younger couples whom we can mentor. Your community can be vital in helping you keep growing, but community takes work; so be intentional about developing them.
9. BE PATIENT WITH EACH OTHER: The Bible says “love is patient”, and we must always be patient with each other. Your spouse’s timing is different from yours. Their needs are different. Their preferences are different. Be thankful for each other’s differences and always be patient, loving, kind and tender-hearted with each other especially in these areas of differences. Instead of allowing you differences to be a source of conflict, make them a source of strength by celebrating each other’s unique perspectives.
10. MAKE SURE YOUR FAITH IIN GOD IS YOUR UNWAVERING FOUNDATION: For us, if this list was written in order, this would be number one! Through all the storms of life, our faith in Christ and His guidance have helped us stay strong. When you and your spouse commit to build your lives on a foundation of faith, you’re making the wisest decision possible. In all the ups and downs of life, God will be your steady anchor. We believe there’s no true happiness or health apart from Him, but in Him and through Him, all things are possible.
If you’ll work together with your spouse to start doing (or keep doing) these ten things, we believe more health and happiness is in your future!
BLESSINGS
DAVE WILLIS.
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