'MAJOR NEEDS OF A WOMAN AND HOW TO MEET THEM' BY JIMMY EVANS.

If we could meet our own needs, we wouldn’t get married. We get married to meet each others’ needs because men and women have different core needs we can’t meet on our own. When you have a bad marriage, it means one person is rejecting the other’s inherent differences. When your wife tells you what her needs are and you reject those needs, it feels like you reject her. Here are the four needs of a woman and how to understand and meet them.

1. SECURITY: Eph 5:25 says, “Husbands love your wives just as Christ also loved the church and gave himself for her.” The standard Paul sets for men is giving your life for your wife, just like Jesus gave his life for you. You love her more than you love yourself. You sacrifice yourself for her.

There are three ways you can meet your wife’s need for security. They are; 

i_ Communicate your commitment to sacrifice for her._ Nothing should be as important to you as your wife is. You have to be willing to sacrifice something, whether that’s an interest, a hobby, a friend, an event, an opportunity, or a promotion, to make sure her needs are met.

ii_ Be sensitive to her needs. Your wife should never have to nag or beg you. When you send your wife flowers, or you’re romantic with your wife, what you’re saying is, “You’re on my heart.” The lack of romance simply means, “I don’t think about you. You’re not on my heart.”

iii_ Be a faithful provider and money manager. Another part of your wife’s security is knowing that she’s going to be provided for. Whatever job you have, the issue isn’t the size of the paycheck. The issue is the size of your commitment to provide and take the lead in the financial management of the home.

2. SOFT, NON_SEXUAL AFFECTION: Amazingly, the more non-sexual soft affection women get, the more sexual they become. You need to be physically affectionate with your wife. What non-sexual physical affection communicates to her is that she’s more to you than just a sex object and that you’re connected on a higher level than just sex.

3. OPEN AND HONEST COMMUNICATION: Women don’t want headlines. They don’t want grunts and groans. They don’t want to hear nothing. How she connects to your world and your heart is through communication. When your wife says to you, “What did you do today?” She doesn’t just want the events; she wants the feelings.

4. LEADERSHIP: Women don’t want to be dominated. They want to be treated as equals, but they want their husbands to be the loving initiator of the home in four important areas: the children, romance, finances, and spiritual matters. Even if you have more of a passive personality, you need to stand up and be the initiator. It means you begin the conversations about disciplining your children. You begin the conversations about budgeting. You begin the conversations about church and spirituality and prayer and things like that.

BLESSINGS...

JIMMY EVANS.