'FOUR THINGS YOUR MAN NEEDS FROM YOU' BY JIMMY EVANS.

Most couples spend the energy that God gave, only trying to change each other. Meeting each other’s needs creates and maintains the attraction between you, maintaining the health of a marriage and minimizing outside risks. It’s a win-win situation. Everyone gets their needs met. Dear wives, there are four important needs that you can meet for your husband.

1. HONOUR AND RESPECT: In Eph 5, Paul says, _“Wives submit to your husbands as to the Lord.”_ I don’t believe in a concept of submission that says women should submit because they’re not as equal (see verse 21). Paul means you should respect your husband like you would Jesus Christ. That’s the standard the Bible gives to women because men gravitate to the place where they get honor and respect, and they run from any place they feel like they may be disrespected. 

2. SEX: God gave men the need for sex and women the gift of sex. Sex is the magnet God gave to keep drawing him back to you. A way to meet your husband’s need for sex is to, first of all, communicate to him that you accept his need and you’re committed to meeting it.

Try to be more sexual than you feel. Just like I tell men that it doesn’t matter how they feel about talking, they need to meet that need for their wives, it doesn’t matter how you feel about sex. Your husband needs you to be sexual. If you want to have sex only when _both_ of you feel like it, you’ll have sex about eight times in your entire marriage! 

3. FINDING FRIENDSHIP: Men want to be best friends with their wives. Come out of your world and into his. Go hunting with him, go golfing, play the video game. Don’t forget that you’re also your husband’s buddy. Your husband will never be as open with you as when he’s having fun with you. You’ll be having fun, and all of a sudden, your husband just opens up because that’s the way men are wired.

4. SUPPORTING THE HOME: Men are happiest when they are domestically centered, even if they work outside the home. Make your home into a place that your husband can come home to. But that doesn’t mean it’s all up to you. Men should do their equal share at home, even in the housework. Men, when you get home, your job just started. It didn’t end. Women have the gift of nesting and turning a house into a home.

In conclusion, Jesus is the only one that can meet your deepest needs, but once Jesus has met your deepest needs, there are important needs that you have to meet in your husband’s life. For men, it’s honor and respect, sex, friendship with their wives, and domestic support. You don’t meet those needs based on your own needs or desires but on his needs and a commitment that you’re going to do that the rest of your life.

BLESSING...

JIMMY EVANS.